Psychological support and rehabilitation of the military in Ukraine is an important and urgent issue because hundreds of men and women return from enemy captivity and "hot spots" every day and who do not know how to continue living after everything they have been through recently. "Pryame Vklyuchennya" has made a list of psychologists' advice for the support of such defenders.

Problems that veterans face

Being a veteran is much more difficult than being a military man. A person who serves is distinguished from others, first of all, by their camouflage. They are respected, thanked, and helped in every way possible. These privileges may disappear after such a defender returns to civilian life because society still has certain stereotypes about former participants of military operations.

For example, a certain number of people believe that former combatants must have PTSD, and will always look for ways to get adrenaline, disregarding the safety of others. This can indeed happen with a person who has experienced prolonged stress, but it does not mean that all military personnel poses a threat to society.

In addition, people who are already considered to be veterans may reproach themselves for staying in the rear while their comrades continue to defend the country. At such moments, they need to have family members who can listen attentively and will not judge.

How can civilians help the heroes?

Of course, society plays the biggest role in the adaptation of former military personnel. Each of us should remember the simple rules of interaction with veterans:

• Remember mutual respect. This means that we should not over-heroize the fighters. Make them feel like equal members of society. Support them, but do not turn the topic of war into the main subject of discussion. After the horrors of the front or captivity, the last thing a person would want to do is remember it throughout their lives.
• Do not devalue someone else's experience. Everyone plays a role in this war. Some soldiers have experienced torture, some have lost a limb or sight, seen their comrades die, etc. Any experience in war is scary. It cannot be the same and less or more significant.
• Pay attention to the needs of veterans. It is important not to impose your help, but to offer it politely. Remember that a person may refuse, and that is also normal. Everyone feels their own strength in the face of certain difficulties.
• Take an interest in the country's inclusive projects, veteran policy, and rehabilitation features. This will help you better understand ex-soldiers and their needs.

If you want to express your gratitude to a soldier or veteran, use a common gesture to do so - put your hand to your heart. This campaign is called "Thanks to You" and is active in many countries around the world.

Very soon Ukraine will celebrate its Victory Day and there will be more veterans. We must be ready to help each of them get their normal lives back.