Anxiety, despair, guilt, sorrow - these emotions can be felt by people whose partner is serving on the frontline. The Charity Fund "Direct Inclusion" dwells on how to cope with this difficult experience and take care of mental well-being.

How does the body react to traumatic events?

In difficult situations, the human psyche works according to a certain algorithm. Therefore, it is necessary to understand what to expect.

Initially, a person may encounter internal apathy towards the world and feel that they are not living but just existing. Psychologists say this is a normal reaction of the body, as the brain tries to suppress emotional pain.

The next stage is denial. A person gradually realizes the situation and begins expressing various emotions—anger, helplessness, and anxiety. But at the same time, they refuse to accept reality. It can be difficult to cope with the fact that the previous life is gone.

The final stage is acceptance. A person adapts and is now able to cope with emotions. Moreover, they may get the strength to continue “living.”

It is worth noting that these stages vary for each individual. Some may still live on February 24 and not accept reality. This happens if a person does not take care of themselves and keeps all emotions inside.

Is it better to suppress the feelings?

Experts advise you not to resist your emotions but to allow them to emerge. Allow yourself to cry. You can go to the forest and screamif you feel like it. Talk about your feelings to someone you trust.

If someone's words upset and offend you, do not stay silent. Tell them that it bothers you. Ask the other person not to do it again. If they do not react, then it is worth stopping the conversation and perhaps the whole communication with them. Your emotional state is a priority, not your relationships with people who hurt you.

There is nothing wrong with seeking help from a psychologist. It's normal to ask for help if you feel bad. Nowadays, many free programs and support communities exist for people whose loved ones are on the front lines. When choosing a specialist, pay attention to qualifications and communication methods. If you feel uncomfortable working with this person, they annoy you, or you simply don't like them, you should go to another specialist.

Support groups help you realize that you are not alone with your problem. By talking to those with the same difficulties, you can eliminate the idea that something is wrong with you. Also, the feeling of isolation and loneliness disappears. Understanding if a particular group is a good place for you is worth attending their meetings at least once.

Several practices to improve morale

Psychologists recommend creating a so-called crisis list in a notebook. Write down a list of things and activities that help distract you and improve your mood. After all, in a stressful situation, it can be difficult to remember what makes you feel better. It can be, for example, a walk, meeting with friends, watching a series, or cooking. Also, add to the list the contacts of people who morally support you and are always ready to listen.

If you feel like helping others, you can volunteer—knitting nets, helping with fundraising, or cooking for soldiers. These things not only benefit the defenders but also help you feel your own significance.

Another useful practice for improving the mental state is "grounding." This is an exercise where you focus on the moment. It is important to talk to yourself aloud about who you are, where you are right now, what you are doing, etc. Breathing exercises will also come in handy and will help to abstract from the outside world.

Earlier, the charitable foundation "Direct Inclusion" published an article about communication rules with a person who has just been under shelling. You can find the material by the link.