Keeping in touch, supporting, and talking about the most important events—these usual things become a challenge for families whose children are on the front line. The war has separated thousands of our families, but parents must be reliable supporters and rearers for the sake of their children. The Charity Fund "Direct Inclusion" has prepared some tips that will help parents communicate with children who are Ukraine defenders.

Ask and listen

Even the most mundane "How are you?" will help the soldier to feel their value and importance. At the same time, there is no need to press and insist if your child does not want to talk about some things. Instead, you can carefully ask: "What would you like to tell me?" Be prepared for any answer, and show calmness and understanding. Even if they share information that is difficult to perceive with you, there is no need to show a violent reaction. There is no place for condemnation or criticism. Express your support and acceptance. Respect the time, decisions, and feelings of your children.

Love and gratefulness

Now it is more important than ever to speak honestly and directly about our feelings. Tell your children that you love them. Thank them for choosing to defend the country. Don't forget to say that you are proud of their courage, dedication, and strength. Express gratitude for calls and texts and for them to be who they are.

So-called talismans can also help increase emotional connection and express support. You can make and send your son or daughter a symbolic talisman. It can be a fabric doll (motanka) or a cross, as well as something valuable to you.

Positive emotions

Your task is to be a reliable back for the defender. They must know that you and your family are good and safe. In a conversation, speak calmly, and express optimism and confidence in our victory. Send encouraging messages, share plans for the future, talk about what's new, what important events have happened, etc. Do not forget to remind the child that you are always waiting for them at home. Avoid negativity and excessive worry.

It is important to agree with the child on what to discuss and what topics to be avoided. Discussing everyday matters has a good psychological effect. You can even make it a tradition to tell or write about how your or their day went.

Plan and be patient

To avoid worrying about why your son or daughter does not call, you need to agree on a time to communicate. Of course, it is not possible to always follow a schedule, so treat that with understanding. To reduce your anxiety, ask your child to call you as soon as they have the opportunity.

Take care of yourself

Although your thoughts are always with your child, you should not forget about yourself. Take care of your psychological state. Do things that reduce your anxiety: exercise, walks, hobbies, socializing, prayer, or household chores. Do not be left alone with anxiety, worries, and negative emotions. You can contact the Psychosocial Support Service for military families or join communities of parents waiting for their children from the front.